Apr. 10th, 2009 08:53 pm
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It's Pesach -- Passover -- the one Jewish festival I've been pretty good about observing ever since I had a revelation playing a roleplaying game by Craig Walker ([ profile] ozgenre), ironically called Revelations 68:11 (or something, I may have the chapter and verse wrong) at a convention. My revelation concerned the way Jews tell the stories of Pesach as events that happened to us -- to us and not our ancestors. The stories are of slaves being set free from their shackles and of finding refuge in new lands, of wandering in the desert for 40 years and seeking a new home. We tell these stories as if they happened to us because it is essential that someone remembers, and it is too easy for some tale from 4000 years ago to be dismissed as irrelevant by children. But if it happened to me, to your mother, then it is absolutely relevant. It could happen to you.

Passover to me is about refugees now, about abolishing slavery, about human trafficking. This time last year I was at an anarchist (vegan, cross-dressing) Seder (the Passover meal) and this year we were invited to stay in Sydney longer to go to Seder at my aunt's. We said no -- too late notice, have to change plane tickets -- but I'm almost wishing we could have gone, since we didn't have a Seder of our own planned this year.

I don't know what it would have been like. The family is very different now. I've become all nostalgic for the Seders of my childhood all of a sudden: my mother and her sister, my sisters, my cousins -- both now in New York, my grandma and grandpa -- both now dead. My childhood wasn't exactly happy and Seders were hardly without stress: the boredom of hours of service before you can eat, my grandfather's strict adherence to an old Haggadah, my sisters and cousin Vanessa and I all muttering "or her" everytime the old, old book used "him" as a generic and driving my grandfather crazy. The irony of the event at all, given that, as far as I know, not one single person at that table believed in God, yet we all said "If God had freed us from Egypt but not given us the ten commandments, it would have been sufficient, dayenu".

I miss my mother's charoset, the apple, wine and walnut dish that represents the mortar for the walls the Jews built for Pharoah.

Right now, Harper is the youngest child. By tradition, she would ask the four questions. (Well, no, by tradition, the youngest *boy* would ask the four questions, but I don't follow that in my Seders anyway). I was talking with Doug a few weeks ago about the irony of this formulaic questioning now, memorised and sung in a foreign language, and then the rote responses and discussions of what the wise Talmudic scholars recommend you should say to the wise child and the slow child. This has all lost its meaning -- the children aren't listening at this point at all, although I was, as a teenager, finally.

One day, I do want Harper to ask these questions, but in her own language and her own words. Perhaps, "why do we only eat this charoset stuff once a year? It's yummy!" or "why do I have to dip my egg in salt water? It's weird." And I'll tell her, "When I was a slave in Egypt..."

May all people who live in servitude anywhere in the world be free this time next year. May all refugees find welcome in a stranger's land.

EDIT: Telling the Passover story as if it happened to us? This year, the Facebook version.

Next phase!

Oct. 6th, 2007 03:43 pm
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Advice to the wise: do not attempt to move house, start a honeymoon, finish an article, do your taxes, organize a wedding in a different country and pack for moving to that country all during the same week while you're pre-menstrual. If you insist on doing so, please make sure you have a Doug on hand for when the crying jag hits its second hour. Also be aware that your responses to things like your tenants telling you they are moving out a month earlier than hoped will be less rational than desired.

This is our last day at the lovely Boardwalk Apartments. I will not miss the "little boxes on the hillside" sameness of the apartment blocks here but I will miss the water and the agapanthus and the ducks out the window over breakfast, and dinner on the balcony in the fading sunlight watching the geese fly over, and watching swift brown squirrels race up trees. I'll miss the chipmunks and other cute life when I leave America.

We leave for Peru tomorrow morning at 8am. Doug is taking the modem back to the cable store now and I will only have sporadic access for the next two weeks. After that, we'll be at Doug's sister's for a little. Those of you with my US cell number, it will still work for the next two months but the home number is gone as of today.

I am still surrounded by boxes and debris. Many of you know how much I resist change and that my usual panic at disorganization would have been in overdrive. I'm doing a little better now but I must get back to it.

I doubt I'll ever get to these, but have some notes towards future entries: one, in which your author discusses Jack Goldsmith's testimony about secret memos and the Ashcroft debacle, rendition, torture and what it means to be an American today; two, the upcoming film Rendition and what it says about freedom of speech as a paper tiger but one we cannot live without; three, the ethics of Jewish responsibility and your author's challenges as a secular political activist brought up Jewish while reading Rabbi Jonathan Sacks' To Heal a Fractured World.

I'm sure there will be updates from the road but in case there aren't, have fun, y'all and catch you on the flipside!


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